What to Expect


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Suggestions for what to wear/not wear for Cemetery Services

For Men
  • Dark suit or dress pants with a collared shirt and tie
  • Dark jacket or overcoat if cold.
  • Polished, closed-toe dress shoes.

    • For Women
  • Dark or muted dress, skirt and blouse, or tailored pants with a modest top.
  • Skirt/dress at or below the knee, shoulders covered.
  • Closed-toe flats or low heels (grass-friendly).

    Accessories
  • Simple jewelry, understated makeup.
  • Optional veil or headscarf for women (a sign of reverence, not required).
  • Avoid bright colors or loud patterns.

    What to Expect at a Catholic Cemetery Service
    The cemetery service, also called the Rite of Committal, is usually the final part of the Catholic funeral liturgy. It takes place after the funeral Mass or sometimes as a standalone prayer service at the grave.

    Structure of the Service

    1.Gathering at the Gravesite
  • Family and mourners gather quietly near the casket, urn, or burial site.
  • A priest, deacon, or lay minister will lead the prayers.

    • 2.Opening Prayer and Scripture
  • The presider reads a short passage from Scripture.
  • Everyone may join in responses such as “Amen” or “Thanks be to God.”

    • 3.Prayers of Commendation
  • The priest blesses the grave and commends the deceased to God’s mercy
  • Holy water and incense may be used as symbols of purification and respect.

    • 4.The Lord’s Prayer
  • Usually, all are invited to pray the Our Father together.

    5.Final Blessing
  • The priest offers a blessing for the deceased and for those present.
  • If desired, mourners may approach to place flowers, soil, or make the Sign of the Cross at the grave.

    • 6.Conclusion
  • The priest or funeral director signals the close of the service.
  • Guests typically leave quietly, offering condolences to the family.


    • Etiquette Tips
    Silence or soft conversation before and after prayers — this is a moment of solemn respect.
    Participate in common responses and prayers if you are comfortable doing so.
    Stand and bow your head     when prayers are said, unless mobility makes this difficult.
    Children are welcome but should be guided to behave quietly.
    Avoid photography unless the family explicitly invites it.